Yeah, I know. The title is very cliche but it works with what I'm about to explain.
Society states that its "weird" to go to a restaurant, to a movie, to a dance, to some sort of social gathering by yourself. Newsflash: its not. It is only weird if you want it to be weird. It is like my viewpoint on awkward moments. Whenever people tell me stories there is always an "awkward moment". That usually pertains to a silence that no one knows how to fill or to a clumsy meeting or catch up with an old friend.
I don't believe thing to be awkward until the a-word is mentioned. Especially when it comes to a pause in a conversation. I don't see it as an awkward moment until someone utters the words, "well, this is awkward". No, its not. Its just a break in the conversation where people are thinking of something else to say. It doesn't have to be that bad.
Now, to go back to the topic at hand: since when did it become weird to go to places alone? I remember going through high school and people were basically going crazy to find a date to a dance because they'd rather not go alone. What's wrong with going alone? You get to be with your friends and dance with whomever. You get to enjoy your time instead of trying to impress the person you're with. Now, I'm not speaking down on those who do go with other people. I have been to a few dances where I went with a date and I had a great time.
I think its just the social pressures of high school. It is weird if you don't like the same things the popular guys and girls like. It is weird if you don't wear the latest style of clothing. Its weird if you don't date. Whatever happen to individuality? Or, as humans, are we all so obsessed with fitting in and showing off we don't really understand individuality anymore?
So, last Friday I went to the pool by myself. I do that often anyway because I like going to the pool. I really enjoy swimming and that is something, like the beach, where you can go either with someone or by yourself without a care in the world.
Later, I went out and grabbed lunched at The Lunch Bell, a local restaurant that focuses on serving lunch food. When I arrived I was asked if someone would be joining me and I said no. The hostess was a polite and left me to think about my order. I never got a sense of judgement form her. Then when my waitress arrived she asked if someone would be joining me. Again, I said no, and then gave her my order. I felt, that since I was eating by myself she wanted to really make sure I was going to enjoy my time at the restaurant and was very engaging and checked up on me to make sure my food was good and everything.
The food was delicious. I could tell that they had made everything fresh instead of frozen or re-heated from the last day. Afterwards I went out and watched a movie. I watched the new film, Lucy. I liked it but the ending was anti-climatic. Plus, it was short- with a run time of 1h30min.
Now, I never felt weird going to movies by myself, but I've never been to a chick-flick or rom-com by myself. I always go to action, comedy, animated, thriller, horror, etc films. Maybe, I should try that out one day.
I've found that is really easy doing things by myself. I need alone time every once in a while and its a great way to get out of my comfort zone and it forces me to get used to ineracting with people one on one. People don't do that much anymore because of phones and other technology.
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you." - Walt Whitman